The Oversharer

For my first social experiment, I tried The Oversharer (I dig the names of these; reminds me of the playbook in How I Met Your Mother). Before I started, I thought really hard about who I wanted to overshare with. I thought it might be funny at first to overshare with a parent of one of my friends, but I remembered that I'm intimidated by adults and, culturally, respecting my elders was overly pressed into me (Korean), so that was quickly nixed. I then considered trying friends of my high school friends, since they're pretty far removed, but I thought that might hurt their impressions of me that I wouldn't be able to fix, since I would never talk to them directly. Eventually I decided to overshare with an acquaintance that I was in the same club in, but had never really talked to her much since she never came to meetings (smh). I thought that the factors that went into this decision making were pretty interesting, because it showed whose opinions I was afraid to hurt and who I wanted to impress, especially the parent one, because I realized I really want parents to like me. Because of my background possibly?
The experiment itself was very nervewracking. The first message I sent was really scary to send. I typed it out (and deleted it and retyped and deleted and retyped) and waited a long time to finally send it. It said "ugh just woke up it's so early". The girl I messaged saw it later in the day (I really did send it early) and actually didn't message back! I assumed she thought that it was an accident, and wanted to gracefully give me an out. I sent her another message later that day "fusion food at BD was amazing today" and she responded "Haha yeah. how's [club name] doing? ive been so busy lol". I liked this message because she was clearly trying to regain semblance of a normal conversation instead of just me updating her on random things. Unfortunately, after this, I devolved into having a random conversation filled with casual niceties because I couldn't bring myself to keep being weird when she was being normal. Oh well. So I didn't succeed at continuing to break social norms after two texts... I guess I've been normalized pretty well.